Confessions of an Undisguised Drama Queen

Thursday, August 26, 2004

Matters of the Heart

If you like someone, tell the person how you feel. Then something good might start. If not, the worst that could happen is just a rejection."

One of the many hackneyed phrases we hear so often from the "Aunt Agonies" around us but yet remains a struggle for many.

People always say that life is full of chances and risks. Matters of the heart lie in a thin line between the two. When you begin to develop feelings or a strong liking towards a particular person, you become conscious of his/ her opinion of you. More often than not, you pray, hope, wish, desire for the person to like you back, in the same intensity, if not greater. Why is it so difficult for people to accept unrequited feelings or rejection? What is it in our human nature that wants a two-way traffic in relationships? Is there no love great enough to give and not expect to be given?

Even for me, the fear of being emotionally hurt is crippling. Always let the mind and rationality rule over the heart - there's minimal risk of getting heartbroken. Getting heartbroken is just too much trouble. You can't sleep or eat well, you can't concentrate on your work, you feel miserable all the time, in general, you're a wreck.

Some people who choose to believe that "Love is a many splendoured thing" might argue that though minimal risk is involved, suppressing your feelings and letting your head rule over your heart equals closing all doors of opportunity to finding your one true love. But is there really a "one true love" for everyone out there? I seriously doubt it.

A close friend of mine once shared with me words of wisdom that still stay with me till today. She said " There is no such thing as destined soulmate or "The One". Different people compliment you in different ways, there is no perfect partner. Ultimately, the choice lies in your hands. Don't find someone you can live with, but someone you cannot live without."

Maybe it's time I sort out my own feelings and ask myself what I really want. But there's really no hurry, is there?

[Time of Confession] 1:16 AM
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